Show How Much You Care —Communicate (On and Off the Field)

Communication is vital on the lacrosse field, the basketball court, and in any team setting (i.e. in sports, business, and relationships).

You can’t connect with your teammates if you don’t communicate.

It’s how you show your teammates how much you care.  It’s how you build trust.  There is more to communication than just your words.  In fact, no one will be interested in your message if you can’t convey your passion, confidence, empathy, and desire to achieve your team’s common mission.

We all can do a better job with our communication, and we need to make it a priority if we’re going to be successful.  Somewhere along the way, many of us have forgotten how to communicate on and off the field.  I say forgotten because as babies we were all born with the innate ability to communicate our needs with a cry or subtle glance.  Now that we have voices and learned a common language, you would think that we would have developed better communication skills, alas, this is not the case.

We need to chip away at what is getting in the way of being great communicators (aka teammates). Take a moment to reflect upon what you need to work on to be a better communicator/teammate, could you:

  1. Do you need to develop your confidence to speak up? Are you afraid that people won’t respond? Afraid to stand out?

    • Tips – Know that you’re good enough. Journal. Practice Your Mantras.
  2. Do you need to improve your delivery skills? – Does your voice convey your confidence, empathy, passion or do you mumble?

    • Tips – Record yourself speak. Practice reading out loud with different voice tones, hesitation, a different rhythm. Improve your vocabulary. Slow Down!
  3. Are you afraid you are going to say the wrong thing? 

    • Tips – Error on saying too much. Study your playbook. Be prepared!
  4. Do You lack the cognitive ability to know what to say in the moment?

    • Practice your focus via meditation. Prepare. Visualize success.
  5. Do you Talk to Much? Do your teammates tune out because it’s mindless chatter? Do you have a purpose for your communication?

    • Tips -You will know if this is the case.  Spend time preparing your message. Practice delivering the message in fewer words.
  6. How’s your body language?

    • Tips – Stand tall, chest out, breath through your nose deep into your belly, smile.

We won’t be able to connect with our teammates until they know how much we care about them specifically, and your common mission.  Conveying your credibility and your commitment starts with your communication.  This is how we build trust and show each other we care.

We can all improve  —start working on your specific challenge today!

#Trust #Communication #PowerPose #Love #Teammates # Leadership

Coach Holman Video Transcript:
We got to do a better job, I don’t know where it comes to I guess it was just how you were raised you still don’t communicate on the basketball court.
You talked your voice inflection changed and it still wasn’t loud enough for me.
I saw Jarrod talk about a pick,
You got to start communicating. You know each other’s names right. Communication is powerful. It’s powerful on defense when you guys are communicating on defense, you’ve already told by the offense that it is intimidating
When you get on the basketball court, I got you, we are brothers. That’s how it has to start trying to build that emotion into your play It will translate to the lacrosse field
You need to conceptualize, play and react all at the same time and that shouldn’t be a sensory overload for you guys. For some of you, it is you have a hard time digesting everything that is going on that is why we are doing this. Find one thing to get better we’ve got to communicate with passion, with empathy, [You should think] “I’m doing my job when I’m talking to my teammate, I feel like I’m being supportive I have to communicate so I can help him, I’m not communicating because it makes me feel better I’m communicating because I want him to know I’m here and I want him to be the best he can be”.  That’s got to be where it comes from, it has to come from your heart, not from this is something I need to do right now It’s gotta be, “man, I love my teammate, I want him to succeed and I can support him while i see everything going on, and then when it’s my turn he’s going to support me and then we get this love moving back and forth and it’s really powerful”

Reading Suggestion:

Excerpt from Unstoppable Teams by Alden Mills on Communication (READ PN NOTE HERE)

“When you’re first starting off and you’re building out a team, people connect with each other. Why do they connect? What’s the point of connect? The whole point is to build trust. Trust starts with care. Trust, it comes from three different things that I call the three Cs of connect. They are, communication, credibility, and commitment. Now, just briefly on communication. You’re going to use your platform for communication. Did you know that 55% of how you communicate is your body language. Are you leaning in on the person? Are you looking at them in the eyes? Do you drop to a knee when you’re talking to somebody that’s at the desk? Do you stand up when somebody comes in to meet you in your office? That simplest form, before you said anything else, represents a huge portion of your communication. They say on average, 55% of all communication first starts with body language. The next 38%, tone. How do you express yourself? Do you have vocal variety or do you kind of mumble? And this is what I want to do, and yeah, let’s go for it. Hooyah. Or, do you say, hey, let me tell you how exciting this is going to be? It’s so great to have you. That’s critical. And, the last 7%, it comes down to what you’re saying. But, if you don’t get body language and tone right, people are going to tune you out when it comes to what you want to say. Now, credibility. Credibility is made up of some key things like accountability. Are you accountable for your actions? Are you trustworthy? Do you have integrity? And, do you have what it takes in the proficiency of your job? Now, that one, at the very end, the proficiency, there are many time we’re thrust into leadership positions and we are tasked with leading others that are way more proficient at their job than we are. I’ve run into that my entire life. So, that’s the least important on the credibility spectrum. The most important on the credibility spectrum and the simplest way is, do you say what you’re going to do? Do you mean Page 5 of 11 Unstoppable Teams 101 Alden Mills what you say? I have been in SEAL Team, in every platoon I’ve ever led, almost everybody in that platoon was way more experienced than I was. You have to be willing to reach and learn from others, and you’ll build more credibility from that. Now, the third C of connect is commitment. You can have all the credibility in the world, all the ability to communicate, but if you’re not fully committed, how do you think you’re going to expect everybody else to be fully committed on your team? Like they all say, “It’s a team sport.” Building out a team requires boatloads of commitment. And, somebody’s got to set the tone for how much they’re willing to pay on the commitment level. A quick review, the three Cs of connect are, communication, credibility, and commitment”